Overcoming Insecurity
Peter James

It never ceases to amaze me how insecure a woman is about her body. She can have the best set of breasts on the face of the earth and she will still be concerned if her ankles are fat. This has always pissed me off. I guess because I don't understand it. I don't understand how a woman can be so obsessive about her body. The funny part is, I don't think most men care. I don't think most men care if there is stretch marks on her stomach. Most men won't even look, but women are obsessed. You need to understand this about your woman and try to help her. It will eat her alive if you tell her that her that her nose makes her look like Porky the Pig. If you love your woman, then you want to have the most stable relationship possible. If it is unstable, chances are you won't be getting laid.

All women are insecure about their asses. You would think by how insecure they are by it, that the sun rises and sets on it. I've never understood this, but like most things with women I have come to terms with it. There are ways that you can help make her feel better about her ass.

Have her lay on her stomach. Start off by massaging her shoulders and back. Go down and massage her ass. While you are doing it, tell her how nice it is. Tell her how aroused it makes you to touch her ass. Usually during this, I will try to insert a few fingers into her vagina. If she says anything, tell her that you got too horny touching her ass.

Some women have cellulite. It is the stuff on her body that looks like cottage cheese. If she is uncomfortable about this, tell her how much you like to kiss her thighs before you have oral sex. Tell her that you can't even notice that she has any. Act stupid and pretend like you never seen it. Don't act too stupid, or she will know that you are lying.

If your woman has a spare tire around her stomach, don't make her fret over it. Tell her to look at it until she feels comfortable with it. If this don't work, have her lye down and kiss her stomach. Tell her how much it makes you horny when you kiss her down there. She will eat this up.

Ever have a woman turn out the lights before you have sex? She is probably doing this to prevent you from seeing her body. Tell her that you want to watch her beautiful body as she has an orgasm. Try to emphasize that you want to see her beautiful body.

No person is perfect. We would all wish that our women were perfect little love machines, but they aren't. Even the women on television aren't perfect. This is probably why you don't see most of them totally nude. Underneath it all, there is a imperfection some where.

You need to let your woman know that even though she isn't perfect, no person is. Tell her about what you feel your imperfections are. Point them out to her, go in detail if you have to.

I'm not saying you should break down and become manic when you tell her this. Use common sense. Don't go out of your way to cry or act depressed. She will see this coming a mile away. Instead, be honest and open about it. Tell her that one leg is bigger than the other or whatever your problem is.

It is important that you understand how your woman views herself. You need to listen to her so that you know what she thinks her faults are. Tell her what you feel are her strong points. Does she have nice breasts? Does she have nice legs? Tell her about it!

The best sex occurs when two people feel comfortable with themselves. If she feels comfortable around you, she will be more active in bed. That is your incentive to help her become comfortable with herself. If you want to have that earth pounding orgasm that floods the room with semen, then you better make her feel comfortable.

I think of the issue about making your lover comfortable like this. If you were a painter, would you be able to paint a picture if you were very nervous? Would you be able to paint a straight line if there was a bomb going off next to you? No, you wouldn't be able to. This is what it is like for your woman. She can't perform if she doesn't feel comfortable naked around you.

If she doesn't feel comfortable after all that you have told her and done with her. I would suggest that you try breathing excesses. You can easily find directions for these on the net. These are a great way to relax and relieve stress as well. Both of you should do this together.